Of unostentatious love and unremembered anniversaries!

Dearest Mr H,

You’ve probably reached office. Or are stuck in traffic.

You are one to keep your word. So you read the blog daily.

These verses are for you to mull over. Let the words linger in your head. As the tiresome workday wears on, let them spread their warmth and comfort.

Let them wane away gently…

Let their sweet perfume gradually fill your soul….

When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden. 

For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth. 

Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast. 

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart. 

But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love. 

When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.”
And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. 

Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

-Kahlil Gibran

Six years, Love!

And we have not once remembered.

Not once have we wished each other. Or celebrated.

Suffice to say our love is pretty self- reliant!

Self- sufficient.

Stripped of all artificiality, chicanery and pretence.

Devoid of ostentation.

Pure. Simple.

Probably because it is built on a foundation of hardship and struggle rather than celebration and exuberance….

Happy Anniversary (belated like always) Love!

Let’s keep trudging on…

Till the next forgotten anniversary….

Dr J.

8 thoughts on “Of unostentatious love and unremembered anniversaries!

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    1. Mine’s an unromantic brick wall too…that is why I was so surprised to see a crack today! I even called to confirm, before I approved the comment!

      1. Hahahaha. It’s funny that underneath all that sand and rock, mine is really just a big cuddly bear too 🙂 Not exactly full of emotional intelligence but cuddly all the same! Happy anniversary xo

  1. There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.

    Martin Luther

  2. This is a coincidence… I have a Mr H too, and we never celebrate either, as we have also had hardship and struggle rather than celebrations 😦

    1. Aah! Fellow strugglers in love….. Our ilk celebrate when we chose to….not when society tells us to! Every problem that we overcome is a celebration in itself. Not to mention the strength it lends to the bonds of our love….
      Darn….did not mean to get all sentimental and philosophical …. Well….

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